Tremendously Intense Erotic Situations
Where the Elite Meet to Beat
Considerations for Negotiation
by babalon
(SnowBound Presentation)
- What do you want out of a scene?
- what role do you want to take: Top, Bottom, Dom, Sub?
- how much experience have you had? (References)
- what medical conditions (allergies, joint problems, asthma, heart problems, STDs etc) do you have?
- what is necessary for you to consider it a "good scene"? SM? Orgasm? Service?
- what limits (hard limits) do you have?
- what squicks or buttons should the other person know about?
- where do *you* draw the line for defining sex? penetration, genital fondling, nudity... (and where are your limits)
- if safe sex is indicated, again, how do *you* define it?
- how do you feel about multiple players? same gender, opposite gender?
- how do you feel about marks: bruises, welts, etc. (no way, desired badges of honor, only in certain places that won't show?) and how easily do you mark?
- how discreet do you feel you need to be (marks, collars,public activities...)
- how do you feel about the following specific activities:
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- blindfolds
- gags
- face slapping
- hair pulling
- clothespins
- clamps
- tickling
- hot wax
- ice
- genital torture
- nipple/breast torture
- shaving (armpits,legs, genitals, belly?)
- piercing
- cutting
- golden showers or golden cocktails
- enemas
- fisting
- scat play
- if you do impact play, do you prefer
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- sting or thud
- paddles
- floggers
- canes
- singletails
do you get into roleplay?
- Ageplay
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- infant
- youngster
- teenager)
- Fantasy roleplay
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- captured spy
- blackmailed executive/worker
- rapist / victim
- master / slave
- daddy
- teacher / student
- how about crossdressing?
- or dressing differently for a dominant?
how do you feel about humiliation:
- derogatory names (cunt, slut, prick, worm)
- insults (stupid, ugly)
- activities (what do you consider humiliating activities? some are embarrassed/humiliated by
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- kneeling
- wearing a collar
- being on leash in public
- enemas
- being made to "bark like a dog"
- wearing a anal plug
do you get into service or being served? if so, what *kind* of service?
- maid/butler
- housecleaning
- valet (bathing, grooming, shining shoes)
- personal service (lighting cigarettes, serving beverages)
- massage
- chauffeur
for relationships:
- if D/s is involved, is the Dominant in charge only during scenes, or will the Dominant be able to give orders to be carried out outside of scene?
- who gets to start a scene, and how?
- how far does Dominant's control extend:
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- religion
- employment
- finances
- children
- education
- place of residence
- etc.
